When Presence Feels Like Absence
In this episode of Narcissists, Gaslighters and Cheaters, Oh My!, your hosts Behk and LAH sit down with a remarkable guest, Penny, whose story is a powerful reminder that breaking the cycle is possible.
Penny takes us through her family's legacy of generational trauma, starting with a grandfather who led a double life—maintaining a secret second family he chillingly referred to as “the others.” His cruelty left lasting scars on his children, including Penny’s father, who spent much of his life chasing an unattainable approval. In turn, Penny’s father became emotionally absent in her life, leaving her to navigate the pain of emotional abandonment, even though he never physically left.
But amidst the dysfunction, there was love. Penny’s relationship with her mother was a deep, beautiful friendship that helped her hold on to hope. She shares how these early wounds shaped her understanding of love, identity, and parenting.
Now a mother herself, Penny has rewritten the story. Through therapy, reflection, and a committed partnership with her emotionally present husband, she’s raising emotionally intelligent children in a home full of empathy, trust, and open communication.
This is a conversation about what it means to break the cycle, redefine love, and choose healing—even when it wasn't modeled for you. Don’t miss this vulnerable and inspiring episode.
Topics Covered:
The hidden costs of generational trauma
Emotional abandonment and its long-term effects
The power of maternal connection
How to raise emotionally healthy children
Rewriting your story when the past looms large
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Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic personality, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.
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